Jun 162 minCircle back aroundThis beautiful ring used to adorn my husband's hand, but now it’s in the bottom drawer of my bedside table. When Ramón was going into the...
Jun 71 minDown here on earthI cut my left hand this morning. It was nothing serious, but it warranted the use of antiseptic spray. As I got the bottle out of the...
May 191 minLet donations ring! This photograph may look like your average 36-year-old man eating a red, white, and blue popsicle, but there's much more. At the time,...
May 71 minHappy birthday, Your Honor!Today this guy would have turned 43! It would have also been the three-year anniversary of his cancer diagnosis. This year, as the date...
Apr 13 minThis is a shout-out to my grievers.Where all my grievers at? Can I get a BOO-HOO? Just kidding. But if I were to craft a rap about grief, it would definitely start off like...
Feb 283 minA-O-KSeveral days ago, I hopped in my car to head to an appointment, and my Pandora app automatically connected to the car’s audio. I fumbled...
Jan 73 minA smidgenAs I sat down to write this post, I thought I’d start by saying, "I woke up to a text from Ramón’s brother-in-law, Steve." Then I...
Dec 8, 20212 minA decade later and I'm still dancingTen years ago today, Ramón came to an improv show and was apparently smitten enough to send a friend request on Facebook. I accepted it...
Nov 11, 20211 minWhat were you wearing when ... ?As I put on a hoodie this morning, I remembered it was the sweatshirt I was wearing when Ramón was diagnosed with leukemia. I didn’t...
Oct 19, 20213 minAsk and ye will have askedToday marks 18 months since Ramón’s cardiac arrest. For once, that length of time aligns with how long it feels like it’s been....
Oct 7, 20212 minLeaves a markEarlier this week I let the dogs out for their nighttime pee in the drizzling rain. My dog Noodle was lollygagging around, so I tried to...
Sep 22, 20212 minFUN! WAS HADFriday night at around 7:30, I ventured out of the house to attend a wine stroll. I did, in fact, wine and stroll, and it was so much...
Sep 2, 20213 minWhether the weather is coldLast night I was texting with one of my friends who is also a widow. (Will saying that ever feel normal?) She was having a rough day on...
Aug 10, 20214 minA nice ring to itAs the one-year anniversary of Ramón’s death approached, I went to a jeweler to get my engagement and wedding rings resized — an idea I’d...
Jun 30, 20212 minHow's my happiness level?Today, when setting up an online account, I was prompted to select a security question. The first one on the list was, “In what city or...
Apr 3, 20212 minThat's how this worksThis day last year, Ramón walked out of our house for the last time. In the days leading up to his transplant admission, he spent more...
Feb 4, 20211 minSealed with an XIn the fifth year of marriage, I'd finally gotten the hang of identifying as "married" after never having envisioned that for myself. Now...
Jan 20, 20214 minThe gossip on grief: Six months laterGrief is powerful. In fact, it's so mighty it has rendered society largely incapable of discussing it. Today marks 6 months of widowhood.
Dec 20, 20201 minnine years - five years - five monthsNine years ago, to the day, I met this guy for our first date. Five years ago, to the day, I married this guy. Five months ago, to the...
Oct 25, 20202 minThank you for everythingA friend gifted me this leather bracelet in August. She conspired to get a sample of Ramón’s handwriting, and my mom had a note from...